Not exactly sure when this ended up being the norm, however since when did texting become the medium for important conversations? Nowadays, it’s not surprising for someone to talk about a tough factor of a connection with someone over text, or for it to be the method one spouse elects to tell their partner that they want a divorce. In some cases people will refer to something heartbreaking that happened, or say mean things to someone else that they ‘d never have the guts to say to their face. And the real kicker? It takes place all the time, as casually as if the same people were actually just ordering lunch.

Well. Heads up. We know this is gonna be a real surprise, but like to know one area in which this “texting tactic” should never be used?

Don’t text your boss, homie.

Even if it’s cool among your group of friends, it’s not gonna be cool with the big guy at the office. Nope. If you have something to say, it’s always better to go and have that talking in person, and listed here’s why.

Your mad texting capabilities may mean you’re super social and have lots to say, but they aren’t going to help you perform saying important things personally. Sometimes you might need to go talk to the one in charge about something at the office that you’re uneasy with, or you might be itching under the collar because you feel that you deserve a raise and you’re planning to go pitch your case. Pretty sure, except if he’s already your buddy, he’s not wanting to respond in the best fashion when his phone dings and it’s a text from you: “Whats up bro, I think I need a salary increase”. (And we’re not even going to talk about the fact that you’re missing an apostrophe and comma, there should be a question mark after your question, and there ought to be a period in the end of what should be your second sentence. That’s really for a chat on grammar. Onward.) Advice: it’s a smart idea to learn how to have important dialogues in person and be able to express yourself verbally, even in situations that may be a little uncomfortable.

To support that point, conversations in person will obtain more respect from your boss. When he or she knows that you’ll involve their office to explain your concerns, they’ll know you won’t conceal behind a screen when you have something important to say. They’ll respect that you have an opinion, and you own it adequately to step up and say it out loud.

Discussing something face to face gives your boss an opportunity to get to know you personally. And sure, we know you don’t want to be known as the person who’s trying to become the favorite, but it’s never bad to establish a few connections that make the people you work with more than just titles.

And, as an ultimate point, if your boss gets to know more about you and likes what they figure out about your work ethic and personality, it may open doors professionally that you might not have had otherwise. If you stand out in a good way (instead of being just another person at a cubicle), you might be the person the executive team calls on when they are going to make a new strategic move, or when they have an extra ticket for box seats to an upcoming game.

So, when doubtful, don’t text. Just don’t make it happen. Have the conversation and go face to face, despite the fact that it has to happen on one of our Bedore Tours when the boss chooses us to do the driving for the office ski trip. We’ll try not to listen in, but we’ll definitely give you the thumbs up on the sly for having enough guts to say it how it is.